21 21 21 Revelations

A month ago, I made my solar return. Through experiences and introspection, I am sharing the 21 things I’ve learned in my 21 years of living.

21. Impulsivity is a detriment. Decisiveness is a virtue. Intentionality is a superpower

20. “And without healing, the human spirit begins to shrivel.” - M. Scott Peck, M.D.

19. Fear and Regret are in the same wheelhouse. Insecurity rules them both.

18. Love is a commitment. Commitment is consistent.

17. Bad choices does not make you a bad person. The lack of accountability does.

16. Forgiveness is a privilege.

15. “Love and abuse cannot coexist.” - bell hooks

14. Grace is a practice that we severely lack expertise in. Practice giving grace to one’s self and others.

13. Vengeance can be positive.

12. Experiences expire, and that’s okay.

11. Nothing in life is linear.

10. “You’ve got the right, to be mad.” - Solange

9. Confidence is internal and definite. Arrogance is external and uncertain.

8. Peace is the calmness of the heart. Strive for calmness.

7. Façades fade. Be authentic at all times.

6. Clarity is a pillar of peace. Do not move without it.

5. “If it does not compel you, it’s not strong enough.” - Joy Meeks

4. How others act towards you is a reflection of their inner self, not yours.

3. Community is essential to one’s spiritual wellbeing. Invest in community.

2. Grief illuminates the most vulnerable parts of the human experience.

1. “… cause wholeness is no trifling matter. A lot of weight when you’re well.” - Toni Cade Bambara